Tag Archives: Encouragement

Thankful it never happened…

In 1989, I was bowling for a chance to qualify for the PBA US Open. The final game of qualifying, I rolled a perfect 300 game to make the top 5 finalists only to get eliminated during match play finals. My dreams of competing in the US Open look to be shattered before a last-minute spot opened up for me to compete with the best of the best in bowling. I had been traveling across the USA bowling in some of the biggest tournaments… Now here I was bowling on the lanes for the tournament that I had dreamed about bowling since I was a young boy. As I looked at the standings after 24 games of qualifying, I remember feeling disappointed that I had finished in the back of the pack. As I left the tournament, I thought about how my Professional Bowling Career was NEVER going to happen…. which it the best thing that never happened for me.

In business and in our personal life, we often plan for something big to happen only to bruce_on truck original picturebe disappointed that it didn’t happen and feel like we aren’t going to be successful. In many cases, this is the best thing that never happens. We just don’t realize it until later in life. Maybe it’s trying to pass a certification, only to be disappointed that we didn’t pass, or trying to pursue a new career, or put in for that promotion and find out someone else was chosen. It’s okay, in some cases, you just need to try again. For example, in 2012, I took the SPHR exam and missed by 10 questions. I was disappointed, but then decided to set a goal of taking the PHR exam the following year and passed.

In other cases, it’s time to set some new goals and refocus on what’s most important to you.

Since competing in the US Open, I refocused on my family and pursued a different career in the relocation business and have enjoyed incredible success and more importantly developed deeper relationships with my family, my wife, my children, business partners, and my customers. In fact, many of my customers are now some of my best friends. I couldn’t imagine a better life than what I have experienced over the last 30 years. I still follow professional bowing very closely and get excited to see the best of the best compete – especially when some of the best players in the world are good friends.

So, when you get down because you haven’t been able to accomplish something important to you, keep in pursuit of what’s most important to you, be grateful for your health, family, and friends, find your lane of passion, drive your life with purpose, invest in your people zone, keep getting better, and make the most of your journey! Life is an amazing adventure when you live with purpose. Just keep planting good seeds and the good seeds will grow into something great for you in your life!

Call to Action: Share this story with someone you know that might need some encouragement. It will make incredible impact!

Quote of the Week… “Ask yourself 3 times a day what’s most important to you, then have the courage to build your life around that answer.” (Tom Watson, Chairman of the Board for Armstrong Relocation and Companies)

This has been A Relocation Minute on “thankful it never happened” with Bruce Waller, for more information, call 972-389-5673, or email bwaller@goarmstrong.com or check out my social media Facebook and Twitter page.

Also, check out www.BruceWaller.com for review my latest leadership book “Find Your Lane” on sale at Amazon!

Be a Lifter Leadership Series – #1 Teacher…

I was in the 7th grade attending Northwood Middle School in the fall of 1978 when I was impacted by an amazing teacher named Gilman (Gil) Davis. Toward the end of our class period, Mr. Davis was sharing information and teaching us about student council and volunteer responsibilities as a leader. When someone asked who we should vote for class President, I listened closely and followed his instructions that has helped me for more than 30 years. Here is the wisdom he shared.

“Vote for the person that looks you in the eye, shakes your hand, and asks how he can help you… difference a day makes

So you know what I did the rest of the week before school, at lunch, during recess, and after school? I shook every students hand in school, and asked how I could help them for their vote on student council. A few weeks later my name was announced as the class president in 7th grade…

What I realize today is that Mr. Davis was teaching his students about leadership, networking, AND how to add value to others.

Here are the takeaways I learned in 7th grade that has made a difference in my leadership today:

1. Be a good listener to understand other people’s perspective so you can help add value. Tom Izzo, coach of Michigan State coin the phrase “listen to learn and learn to listen”.
2. Expanding your network allows you to be a resource and add maximum value for others. I often share a phrase I heard from Darren Hardy more than 10 years ago “Your network is your net worth”!
3. Encouraging someone will increase their confidence, inspire them to pursue their dreams, and take action for success. I am so thankful for all of the people that have encouraged me on my journey through life. I am looking forward to sharing more life lifters in this series. Each one of them has made significant difference in my leadership journey.

Who lifted YOU in school to give you the confidence for breakthrough today?

John Maxwell says it best when describing life lifters, “You have to touch the heart before you can ask for the hand.” Encouraging people to believe in their dreams makes impact at any age!

Call to action: Be a lifter! Next time you are meeting with someone at work or in your personal life, find a way to connect so that you can be a resource to help them achieve their goals and dreams. It might be sharing an article or just sending an encouraging note. One day they might share how you lifted them to success.

This has been “A Relocation Minute Update” on “Be a Lifter Series – Teacher” with Bruce Waller, for more information on relocation resources, call 972-389-5673, or email bwaller@goarmstrong.com. Follow me on Twitter too!